Parenting styles are normal behavioral tactics that parents use to control and help their children socialize. Every family has a different style of bringing their children up. Developmental psychologists have been trying for a long time to find out how the behavior of a parent effects that of a child. However, the effect of a parental behavior on the action of a child is yet difficult to ascertain.
Various psychologists like Sigmund Freud, Carl Jung have tried to understand how the behavior of the children is influenced by their parents. Diana Baumrind is one psychologist who has tried to classify the style of parenting. According to “Baumrind’s Parenting Typology”, there are four elements that helps in shaping an effective parenting. These are:
- Demanding versus undemanding
- Responsiveness versus unresponsiveness
Through her research, she identified three styles of parenting:
- Authoritative parenting
- Authoritarian parenting
- Permissive parenting
The four parenting styles:
Maccoby and Martin (1983), expanded upon Baumrind’s three parenting styles. Thus, the parenting styles that are known today are:
1. Authoritative parenting:
Authoritative parenting is considered to be the ideal form of parenting as it is more child-centric. The authoritative parents understand the feelings and the thoughts of the children and teach them to regulate their feelings. They expect a high level of maturity from their children. The standards for behaviour are clearly stated and set this. The child’s behaviour is regularly monitored. In order to discipline the child, reasoning and explanation is used. No form of power is asserted on the children. Parents do not withdraw their love and affection for their children as a form of punishment. While punishing the child, the parents explain the reasons for punishing them. So the child knows reason why he or she is being punished. Children who are reared in such a style of parenting have a high self-esteem and self-reliance. They are socially responsible, achievement oriented and are highly independent.
2. Authoritarian parenting:
Authoritarian means showing authority and not being very responsive. In this style of parenting, the parent is highly restrictive in showing their emotions and also restrict the behavior of the children. Punishment is given heavily to the children in order to show their authority. Parents may also use verbal abuses to get the desired behavior from their children. This style of parenting is intended to teach the children the harsh realities of the world which they can face when they are mature enough. The children who are brought up in such a form of parenting style are:
- Highly obedient
- Follow the traditional form of behaviour
- Are very moody and anxious
- Not very happy. They suffer from depression and are always blaming themselves.
Children who evolve as adults in such style of parenting have an escapist mentality, substance abuse, always lack self-esteem and have suicidal tendencies.
3. Permissive parenting:
In this parenting style, the parent is indulgent, lenient and permissive. Little or no behavioral control is used here. They do not hold any level of maturity from their children. There are often no consequences or punishments for misbehavior. As a result, children have problem in controlling the impulses. They are highly immature and do not accept any responsibility. In this type of style of parenting, parents allow considerable amount of self-regulation and avoid confrontation with their children. Permissive parents are extremely friendly with their children. Their status in the children’s life is that of a friend.
4. Neglectful or detached parenting:
There are some parents who have a low communication with their children. They are not very involved with them and have low demands from their children. In the style of parenting, even though the parent is fulfilling the child’s basic need, they are detached. They are also sometimes neglectful to the child’s basic needs which may lead to some sort of rejection of their child. Children of such parents have low self-esteem and perform very poorly in many spheres of their life. They also lack self-control and this continues to their adulthood.
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